How to Recognize Misalignment and Use Jealousy as a Guide to Your True Life Purpose
If we agree that living in alignment is the ultimate goal, then it’s crucial to assess where you currently stand. Are you getting closer or drifting further away from that alignment? By honestly measuring your position, you can begin taking small, intentional steps toward the life you truly deserve.
What is exactly living in alignment?
Alignment means living life on your own terms: unapologetically and authentically. The beauty is, there isn’t just one way to live. No one can dictate your path, and that’s incredibly empowering. You are fully responsible for your journey. So don’t blame the universe, your upbringing, your friends, or bad luck. If something is missing, the accountability lies with you. But here’s the good news: You’re still on time.
Even when we feel mostly aligned, there will be off-days. That’s normal. The key is ensuring that those misaligned moments are the exception, not the rule.
The real challenge begins when we think we’re aligned, but deep down, we’re not.
One of the biggest red flags? Feeling jealousy when others succeed.
Think about it:
Have you ever seen a truly happy person feeling jealous of someone else’s joy?
Have you ever seen a successful individual envious of someone else’s wins?
Have you ever seen a fit person resent someone working hard on their fitness?
I haven’t.
Jealousy is often a signal — not something to feel ashamed of, but something to examine. I once read a quote that shifted my perspective entirely:
“Whenever you feel jealousy, stop and identify exactly what the other person has that triggered that emotion. That’s probably something you want, too.”
Isn’t that powerful?
For example:
If someone buys a beautiful car and you feel jealous, maybe you desire one too.
If someone launches a business and it stirs envy, maybe you crave the freedom of entrepreneurship.
If someone gets promoted and you feel bitter, maybe it's time to chase your own career growth.
If someone publishes a book and you feel a pang of jealousy, maybe there's a story inside you waiting to be told.
And guess what? The reverse is true as well:
If you’ve decided not to have children, chances are you won’t feel jealous when someone else starts a family.
If traveling doesn’t excite you, your jet-setting friends likely won’t trigger envy.
The truth is, when we’re disconnected from our purpose, unclear about our desires, or inactive in our pursuit of growth, we’re more susceptible to jealousy. That’s not because others are doing too much. It’s because we aren’t doing enough.
So here’s your action step for today:
Shift your mindset. Let go of jealousy. When you notice something in your environment that triggers longing, don’t suppress it; acknowledge it and say:
“I want that, too.”
Add it to your vision. Use it as a guide. The clearer you are, the closer you get to living the life you dream of.
As a final word, always remember: Nobody will compromise their dreams just to make you feel comfortable. They won’t and you shouldn’t either. Focus on yourself, follow your path and let others continue theirs too. We all have dreams to fulfill and the beauty of it, is that nobody can take them away from you.
Here my latest dream fulfilled:
To many more…
With love,
Carmen